Everything will be okay. A message I keep being reminded of a lot this summer. I have realized that whenever I face something difficult, emotionally, or physically draining I always end up okay. But whenever I first encounter this hardship my initial response is to feel as though the world is ending. That this is the moment things will end for me. I feel this way whenever my boyfriend and I get into an argument even if it’s something silly. I notice that when he’s upset with me or as he phrases it “upset with the situation” I have this intense fear he will decide to break up with me. But it never happens because I’m obviously such a catch! As I’m writing I’m starting to realize I have abandonment issues haha. But in all honestly we have all been rejected, heartbroken, and left astray before. It’s a part of life that teaches us these lessons that even though in this exact moment everything sucks you will always make it out okay. This lesson also teaches us to move forward, specifically to have a positive outlook on our ability to overcome.
A bit of a side note, I think about this message when thinking about strangers. The people we learn about when watching a true crime documentary, the people we see without homes begging for money, or even just the person across from you at the coffee shop. Everyone has a unique story, with chapters including conflict. And we have no idea what the stranger’s story is. I imagine that these people dealing with loss, feel that they keep getting knocked down. I have had moments in my past where I had convinced myself it was never going to get easier let alone better- as if I was fixed into this moment of time. Which then reflected my inability to overcome so I was a failure. I bring up strangers, especially those with less because there’s this unspoken assumption that they will figure out how to pick themselves up. They need some tough love, and eventually on their own, they will see they are in control of how their life plays out. While it is important to feel capable of resilience after some time one can lose hope when they’ve been fighting on their own for so long. As I said before I am a very independent person but doing everything alone is hard (and not recommended by therapists). You need people to help you realize that you are strong enough to keep going. On your own with enough hope and acknowledgment, you will recognize that those around you were right- eventually, everything will be okay.
