It’s been a while since I last spilled the tea. I thought I was only taking a few weeks off but before you know it we’re in a new year! A lot has happened since my last post. So for today’s tea talk, or coffee as I now prefer, I’ll reflect on the past year, while filling you in on what you missed, and looking forward to 2023.
Starting back in last October where we left off, I dressed as a bunny for Halloween and ate lots of Reese’s pieces- my favorite candy! I had begun my tutoring job which will take up most of my time for the rest of the semester. At first, I found the job intimidating, as it was out of my comfort zone but after my last session I was sad for it to end. I celebrated my birthday on the 20th of November, where I had yummy Cuban food and a cute slice of cake! I spent time with both sides of my family that following week at Thanksgiving. I spent time with family members I don’t see often which was nice. It was also my first attempt of making a carrot cake, but luckily everyone liked it. Then it was back to school to take my finals, it was an exhausting rush to finish up the semester. I had both of my finals on the same day, I ended up doing well, having both A’s in the class. I didn’t mean to brag but it was very rewarding considering how much studying I did. On winter break, I went christmas shopping for my best friend and boyfriend, they both enjoyed their presents- I love what they gifted me too. I got a new tattoo on my rib cage, super cute in my opinion. I recovered from what appeared to be the flu, ended up missing a few days of work but binge watched my shows. I mostly worked, and saved money. I did manage though, to bake sugar cookies and gingerbread cookies for my sisters to decorate. I had lost some of the cookie cutters so I had to cut them out with a knife, very difficult by the way. I finally got to enjoy a white Christmas this year too, I loved watching the snow fall! And to finish off the year, my best friend and I had an eventful night together followed by getting our usual Starbucks in the morning. It had been quite a year of growth, change, hardship and achievement.
When I reflect on who I was this time around last year I’m just a different person. I have matured, learned to love myself better, and shown alot of growth in my attitude towards others. We jump so fast to what we want to do better for next year, what are my resolutions we ask. Look at what you did last year, you survived, picked yourself up and made it to another year. Sure maybe you missed gym days, maybe didn’t always eat so “healthy”, went through heart break instead of a forever, struggled to get out of bed- it was just too comfortable, you still did it. We don’t always top off the year with grand accomplishments, or finish what we started. That’s okay, you still managed to start which is enough to get the pot boiling. We set up these goals we would like to accomplish and they might have been unrealistic to do in a year, or maybe life just happened. The smallest accomplishments should be celebrated. And try not to be so hard on yourself if you haven’t checked everything off your to do list because some things take time.
As for me, I have a few goals that are major such as owning my first car and possibly some traveling this year. But most of goals are about long term self growth, they may be smaller but feel like big accomplishments.
My main goals:
- To remain consistent, to continue what I had started
- To further my self love journey
- To dig deeper, learn healthier ways, & work on myself as I have been doing
- I want this year to be all about fulfilling my needs, and exiting anything or anyone that disturbs the peace I have been creating
A new year can bring a sense of hope to do things differently. It can invite change, opportunity, and challenges. This can feel scary, unpleasant at first but by the end of the year you may have learned so much from that change, opportunity or challenge. Maybe you will grow into a new you, as the saying goes new year new me. Ease into this though, slowly introduce these changes or goals into your routine. Take your time to adjust to the shift, it does take at least 4 weeks to develop a habit but most things you will forever be adjusting too. Situations may pop up in this year, where you now have to priortize meaning more adjusting. This will always be a balancing of what you want for yourself, and everything else in your life- friends, family, work, school and so on. So it’s great that you have written down your new year resolutions, but all you can really do is your best to navigate these goals along with life’s battles.
Happy New Year! Here’s to what 2023 brings!
